I have left a family behind, when I decided that enough was enough. Since then I have gathered a group of close friends around me, all of whom I consider my True Family, my family of choice.
I have learned some very important lessons from my True Family, here are the best ones:
1. I learned what love is.
I learned that love is not what you get if you behave well enough, or make a good enough impression. I learned that love is not something quite that easily gained, or lost. Making a mistake is not a problem when you are around people you love. Neither is losing your temper, dropping the ball, being forgetful or making questionable wardrobe choices.
2. I learned what help is.
i learned that family can help you without adding to the drama. There is help that comes without strings, and without terms and conditions. There is help that has but one intention: to make you life a little better, a little easier. It is amazing to receive help like that, after a life of manipulative help galore.
3. I learned what support is.
I learned what it feels like when someone is genuinely happy for your happiness and for your achievements. It feels so different in the absence of jealousy and envy.
Having a family that functions without drama, gossip and strings is an amazing experience. All of us have had to deal with some truly life altering stuff, but we had each other’s back and tried to make life easier and more enjoyable for the others.
My true family is the greatest blessing that has come from my choice to distance myself from my family of origin.
Thank you for finding your way into my life my dears!