At SwanWaters we are always trying to keep a positive mind, and that is not always easy given the subjects we deal with. But we try every day, because we strongly believe that positivity breads positivity. Only by focusing our minds on the good things that are already happening, and the great potential still ahead of us we can navigate our journey from surviving to thriving.
We Are Not Just Drowning Out the Negative
I want to make it clear that we are not painstakingly trying to rule out every single negative story or thought. Positive thinking is not about eliminating the bad, it is just about emphasis.
Being a survivor of abuse there is a lot of bad that we need to wade through. We NEED to tell our stories, state our truths and delve into our fear, anger and frustration. Of course we feel like an injustice was done, because it was! All those feelings, thoughts and processes have a place in the recovery journey. We have to process our memories and emotions.
But although we all have to travel through the swamp, it is not a place you want to stay. Staying in that place too long and you will begin victimizing yourself with your own thoughts and memories. It would be like getting stuck in quicksand.
Narrow Minded or Open Minded
Negative emotions trigger our problem solving skills. We see a bear on the road ahead, all we will think of is how to survive. Run? Fight? Play dead? In other words, the fight, flight or freeze response kicks in. When we are narrow-minded like that we will constantly be in survival mode.
This is exactly the reason why we put such emphasis on positivity. Because letting the sunlight in, means you can move through the swamp, and come out the other end. It broadens our minds, allows us to get creative and build a life we love.
Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.
– Lyndon B. Johnson
Want to read some more? Check out this article about the Emotional Thermostat.
What are your best strategies for keeping a positive mind?