Getting out of an abusive situation is hard, and there is no substitute for good preparation. In part 1 of this series Aubrey shares her recommendations
By far the hardest thing to manage after you have escaped abuse and gone No Contact is your own mental boundaries. There are likely many ways to achieve retraining your thoughts, but I found four that were very successful for me.
How do you take steps as either a parent or adult survivor to break the abuse cycle and shape a happier, healthier life? Here are three important steps.
We all know the power of habit, particularly the strength of the “tapes” that run in our heads even when the abuser is gone, they can cause holiday stress
Whether at the airport or a local exchange location, we’ve experienced the feeling of delivering our children for a court ordered visitation with an abuser
The demands and expectations my abuser had surrounding the holidays were stressful. My life’s much happier and more peaceful since shaking off those demands
Once I got myself and my girls away from him, I realized we would have to create new traditions. I didn’t want to keep up the same things out of habit when most of those things sucked the joy right out of my holidays.
There is so much freedom in that kind of forgiveness, rather than the type of forgiveness that kept us emotionally enslaved.
So let me start by saying that the positive we will we consider here is not some perky-pants denial accompanied by a chirpy, “Oh, I’m fine!” Why? You aren’t fine.
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”