No Contact is a term I didn’t even grasp at the time I decided to do it. So for better or worse, I didn’t know what to expect when I went NC…
It’s July 4, Independence Day here in the U.S. So many people in our country, however, are not free yet. They suffer in silence and hide in plain sight.
No one reading this who has experience with an abuser, particularly narcissistic parents, is surprised by this. That in itself is tragic.
Even if you don’t have full-blown PTSD (and I sure hope you don’t), these can be adapted to help with any traumatic or high-stress situation.
When living with an abusive partner, your “fight or flight” response is always at a heightened state, keeping your brain in a constant mode of anxiety. So it’s no wonder we get sick more often
There are people who will aim others at their chosen target. This gang mentality is a way to rationalize the abuse since it isn’t being delivered directly.
This is not about arguing what’s right or wrong, or what’s in the legal orders. Those things are black and white. This is about CREATING modes of attack when all other means have been exhausted.
You cannot judge whether or not someone is a victim of emotional/mental abuse by outward appearances of any sort. We learn to mask our shame and pain.
I truly don’t remember a time in my life when I did not feel shame. We’re not talking about the same thing as guilt.
That’s what happens when you spend your days in an emotional foxhole, trying to anticipate another person’s moods and make sense of crazy