What to do when you’re forced to have contact or some form of interaction with our abuser? There are a few schools of thought on how to stop being a target
One of the phenomena I spoke of before is “abuse by proxy”. This is a well-known and predictable response by an abuser who has reached a point of desperation and uses other means to intimidate, harass or otherwise continue the abuse.
Once I had cleared safe airspace from Captain Crazy of the S.S. Melodrama, I took an inventory, which led me to learning to love and nurture myself again. Here are the things I assessed
Today I’m going to begin discussing the concept of forgiveness. The “F word” that all well-meaning non-survivors like to remind us about, as though learning to forgive would suddenly make everything heal nicely.
You know in the movies where someone falls into quicksand and the first thing they are told is to not fight or thrash about, lest the pit of quicksand swallow them whole?
Liberation from abuse takes hard work and focus, not to mention a lot of sweat and tears. Make no mistake, folks… I did not get to where I am in my recovery on my own and you likely won‘t do it alone, either. Not only have I been blessed with a large group of phenomenal […]
Freedom means different things to different people. Freedom for me meant that I was free from a life of sadness, of pain, and desperation.
When you focus your efforts and energy on recovery, good things will start happening. It is hard, but so worth it!
The long-term training of abuse is to always bow to whatever the abuser’s whims and moods dictate, simply to keep the peace. That thinking needs cleaning out from your head.
When I was finally able to talk about the abuse without becoming angry or vengeful, I realized that something in me had shifted, that I had started healing