When you focus your efforts and energy on recovery, good things will start happening. It is hard, but so worth it!
The long-term training of abuse is to always bow to whatever the abuser’s whims and moods dictate, simply to keep the peace. That thinking needs cleaning out from your head.
When I was finally able to talk about the abuse without becoming angry or vengeful, I realized that something in me had shifted, that I had started healing
Today’s glaringly opposite events brings up a few points about life with an abuser and how you can not only remove yourself but thrive beyond all your expectations.
In considering our abusers, let’s take a minute to “bless their hearts”, because it gives us pause to consider what’s great in our lives.
You’ve heard it said that great sex begins in the brain. When your mind is clouded with sadness, desperation and fear, how can you have room for intimacy?
I feel so sad that my daughter, who has spent only 11 days with her father since last November, was unhappy enough to insist on cutting their time short by 2 days.
I expect any responsible parent to make logical parenting choices that don’t interfere with the well-being and safety of their children. When those choices are made based only on what the adult wants (narcissism), it makes me nuts.
Remember that when you are dealing with your abuser you will need to have a clear idea for yourself of what you consider a “winning” outcome.
When I first liberated myself from the abuse, I thought that was the biggest step. Several months later I realized clearly that this was not the end, but the beginning of another challenge. Healing.