Consider you are not just the student when it comes to your healing, but the teacher too. Are you a kind teacher, or do you have an inner Miss Trunchbull?
I often talk about healing from trauma in terms of learning, because I think that is really what this boils down to. We learn to better understand our own story and how it influenced and influences us. We learn to recognize our triggers. We learn to respond to those triggers in better ways, We learn how to have a healthier relationship with the people we love, and most of all we learn how to have a better relationship with ourselves. We learn self-care and boundaries, and the list goes on. Yeah, basically you are enrolled in ‘Me 101’.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
Every week Mags will share some of her ideas, tools and skills about abuse and recovery in small, pint-sized chunks of healing.
This week, that memory came back to me. Not because the hashtag triggered me necessarily, but because I was very hesitant to add my #metoo.
In the aftermath of abuse, it can be only too easy to give into negative thoughts. Embracing positivity may be challenging… it is a great asset in your life
When abusers say, ‘You reap what you sow’ it means ‘you are the real cause of the abuse’. But is there truth to this old adage that abusers fail to see?
Acceptance, compassion, and forgiveness. They are some of the most complex aspects of the healing journey. Some survivors even struggle against them and refuse to embrace these feelings. However, in order to thrive in your new life, it is important to explore them all.
Our self-talk can be absolutely brutal. But why is that? We are most definitely capable of compassion, why do we struggle so much with self-compassion?
The problem with being told to leave my comfort zone for me as a survivor of abuse is that for the longest time I had no comfort zone.