The problem with being told to leave my comfort zone for me as a survivor of abuse is that for the longest time I had no comfort zone.
Let us reclaim forgiveness, as a tool for empowerment not a sign of submission. Forgiveness should be more about letting go than turning the other cheek.
In the aftermath of abuse, we have to deal with a lot of complicated emotions. They are often labeled as negative, but I think they are just complex
This question comes up quite a bit when I talk to survivors: Why is my abuser so successful? Many abusers are mostly very successful at projecting an image.
Mags shares some concepts and tools that she finds useful when trying to be resilient while experiencing complex (negative) emotions.
Guilt is a complex emotion, but one survivors of abuse are intimately familiar with. The experience of abuse is -among many other complicated things- the world biggest guilt trip.
So many people only associate PTSD with combat soldiers, and those who have dealt with domestic violence know what it is like to fight a constant war at home.
In the aftermath of abuse, we often have to deal with a myriad of PTSD triggers. Daily life was abuse, now daily life is a reminder of that abuse. By that I mean that sometimes the most normal activities and events can trigger memories and emotional flashbacks. That means that the most mundane tasks can become very difficult to manage.
Are you supporting someone with PTSD? If you are here to find out how you can better help them, I want you to know how awesome you are!
You may think of PTSD as an emotional disorder, but it really isn’t. PTSD show up in your brain, and actually influences how your brain functions.