As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Every time we set ourselves overly ambitious goals that are doomed to get the better of us, we feel like a failure.
Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
A while ago, I wrote a little blog about people who are energy drains (you can find it here) In it I wrote: “There are people in this world who leave you feeling totally depleted. Not even after a day of intense arguing about something, but instantly. The second you see them, you feel your […]
In this space, we are looking at the ins and outs of personal boundaries—what they are, why they are important, and some healthy ways to set and maintain them. This module’s contents include: Information about boundaries, and how to maintain them; a 17 Hack for Healthy Boundary Setting download and more.
Consider you are not just the student when it comes to your healing, but the teacher too. Are you a kind teacher, or do you have an inner Miss Trunchbull?
I often talk about healing from trauma in terms of learning, because I think that is really what this boils down to. We learn to better understand our own story and how it influenced and influences us. We learn to recognize our triggers. We learn to respond to those triggers in better ways, We learn how to have a healthier relationship with the people we love, and most of all we learn how to have a better relationship with ourselves. We learn self-care and boundaries, and the list goes on. Yeah, basically you are enrolled in ‘Me 101’.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
Every week Mags will share some of her ideas, tools and skills about abuse and recovery in small, pint-sized chunks of healing.