Toxic people both demean and overemphasize health and self-care. While being criticized for not healing and for trying to heal, I’d be told I’d die a horrible, slow, young death.
I feel pretty confident that the whole SwanWaters team will give you are resounding YES! Helping others is at the core of our organization.
Wish you could make your child to see their abusive spouse, your siblings to see your toxic parents? No matter the context, if they’re not ready they won’t see the abuse. Here are some ways in which you can support someone you love.
I finally started on the autobiographic work by my dear friend Carrie Maya: Chase Down Your Freedom. Carrie is a survivor of religious abuse.
I wanted to talk to you how toxic people push us beyond our limits in the name of “facing our fears”. They push us so far that we get into panic mode.
Recently a dear friend and fellow-survivor lost her toxic mother and it got us to talking about grief. I sometimes wonder how I will respond when I find out.
I think one of my mother’s favorite defenses was: I was only trying to help. It is a great anger stopper. How can you continue to yell at someone who was only trying to help? However misguided the help, she was acting with the best of intentions. Right? Wrong!
There are days when you think nothing would be more satisfying than stooping to their level. Please climb back up to that high road if you can manage…
Negative experiences are part of life, and they do not really mean anything. Most people can shrug these experiences off quite easily, but with a bully in your head, it is all too easy to follow your own thoughts down the Whirlpool of Depression. So what we need to do is evict the bully! Shut them up and we will be able to simply move past the negative experience and continue on our merry way.
For the longest time I thought there was something inherently wrong with me. I never thought I could be happy.