More people suffer emotional abuse than you think. You are not alone! There is healing in connecting with people who have shared this experience and can validate and support you.
When we talk about SwanWaters, we often explain it as a place of support and validation. There is a reason why we specifically highlight validation, because it fulfills a multitude of important functions in the process of recovery.
When we talk about a lack of emotional self-control, we usually think of anger. And we all have our days when we lose our temper, or cannot swallow the snarky retort. For the most part, we are able to control ourselves, and our emotional responses though. For toxic people, that can be a different game […]
The word love-bombing implies that this is a phenomenon of intimate partner abuse. It is not though. Every abuser, in every setting will use this principal to groom and isolate their target.
I did not feel comfortable calling my past abuse. Why? Probably because like so many people, I only associated the word abuse with sexual or physical abuse. Abuse is emotional, verbal, financial… it is any situation where a person is marginalized, made to feel insignificant, unworthy, unlovable and unimportant.
“Why did she not leave?” seems the standard in talking about abuse. We need to stop that. Why not ask “why he abuse her?” or even better “how can I help?”
To talk about abuse is not only good for targets. Abuse has far reaching effects on our communities, it is in all of our best interests to address the issue
Recovery is hard work, we have to train our mind and our body to forget about triggers and normalize healthier behaviors and thought patterns. Much like professional athletes, we are constantly honing our training. Sometimes we feel frustrated and we want to just give up. Just remember that your gold medal may be just around the […]
The most painful response I have received after telling someone about my decision to cut contact with my parents was: ‘You can’t, you will break their soul’. Why, after half a lifetime of pain and damage does the world still expect me to prioritize my abusers pain over my own?
Why don’t I point you in the direction of some of my favourite resources and structure your reading list a little?