This question comes up quite a bit when I talk to survivors: Why is my abuser so successful? Many abusers are mostly very successful at projecting an image.
It took many years for me to understand that guilt and shame are two entirely different things with vastly different impacts.
Mags shares some concepts and tools that she finds useful when trying to be resilient while experiencing complex (negative) emotions.
Guilt is a complex emotion, but one survivors of abuse are intimately familiar with. The experience of abuse is -among many other complicated things- the world biggest guilt trip.
In the aftermath of abuse, we often have to deal with a myriad of PTSD triggers. Daily life was abuse, now daily life is a reminder of that abuse. By that I mean that sometimes the most normal activities and events can trigger memories and emotional flashbacks. That means that the most mundane tasks can become very difficult to manage.
Are you supporting someone with PTSD? If you are here to find out how you can better help them, I want you to know how awesome you are!
The thing about PTSD and recovery is that it’s complex. It’s not as simples as 1 2 3 you’re fixed. There were definitely times that I thought some of my problems were PTSD specific, but it turned out that some things were just general, across-the-board human experiences.
You may think of PTSD as an emotional disorder, but it really isn’t. PTSD show up in your brain, and actually influences how your brain functions.
A few pages into Finding Your Wings, I felt a shift in my perception as I realized that it’s not just that you journal, it is also about how you journal.
Do you sometimes just walking around like a headless chicken? Do you, like me, like to sit down for a moment, pour yourself a cuppa and put pen to paper?