Consider you are not just the student when it comes to your healing, but the teacher too. Are you a kind teacher, or do you have an inner Miss Trunchbull?
I often talk about healing from trauma in terms of learning, because I think that is really what this boils down to. We learn to better understand our own story and how it influenced and influences us. We learn to recognize our triggers. We learn to respond to those triggers in better ways, We learn how to have a healthier relationship with the people we love, and most of all we learn how to have a better relationship with ourselves. We learn self-care and boundaries, and the list goes on. Yeah, basically you are enrolled in ‘Me 101’.
Intuition isn’t some magical, pie-in-the-sky super power only witches possess, but simply another way to draw upon information we have about a situation.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
Michael Ballard and Mags Thomson both learned from experience how to deal with a toxic boss. How do they affect you and what can you do to protect yourself?
Our self-talk can be absolutely brutal. But why is that? We are most definitely capable of compassion, why do we struggle so much with self-compassion?
This question comes up quite a bit when I talk to survivors: Why is my abuser so successful? Many abusers are mostly very successful at projecting an image.
It took many years for me to understand that guilt and shame are two entirely different things with vastly different impacts.
Mags shares some concepts and tools that she finds useful when trying to be resilient while experiencing complex (negative) emotions.
Guilt is a complex emotion, but one survivors of abuse are intimately familiar with. The experience of abuse is -among many other complicated things- the world biggest guilt trip.