Often the targets in the toxic family are not even aware of what is going on. After all, the toxicity may not be normal, it is their normal.
I wanted to talk to you how toxic people push us beyond our limits in the name of “facing our fears”. They push us so far that we get into panic mode.
I think one of my mother’s favorite defenses was: I was only trying to help. It is a great anger stopper. How can you continue to yell at someone who was only trying to help? However misguided the help, she was acting with the best of intentions. Right? Wrong!
When abuse never takes any physical form, it can be tough to feel sure it ever happened. After all, everybody makes mistakes… no parent is perfect. Right?
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
I find myself typing about CPTSD, and how it gets to turn a funny, loving, and positive person, into a blubbering fool who is ready to just give up.
I read that snippet of advice recently and it just struck a chord with me. How simple a dividing line is that? Over the past year, I began to consciously contemplate and apply that quote to my daily life, and to my surprise the happiness and peace in my life increased significantly.
PTSD really is a normal response to trauma. In this PTSD podcast Aubrey and Monkey talk about everything from what it is, to how it can manifest.
My early life was very confusing. I was always told off and yet most of the time I knew I had done nothing wrong. Being the daughter of a single mother I often wished that my father was there to protect me, but I didn’t know him. He left my mother before I could recollect any memories of him.
“I am going to come out and say this: my parents are not nice people! They are excellent actors, and within their community they are respected and even admired. Behind closed doors they scheme and lie.” It has taken M years to find a way to deal with her parents.