While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
Michael Ballard and Mags Thomson both learned from experience how to deal with a toxic boss. How do they affect you and what can you do to protect yourself?
Anger is a very powerful emotion. One which society tends to feel is bad and self-indulgent. Yet it has the potential to benefit our relationships.
Parentification and infantalization are strategies to make the victim feel both responsible
Whether by denial, lying or being covertly abusive – phrasing what they say very carefully to intentionally hurt you – an abuser will use gaslighting as just one weapon in an arsenal of many. The tactic is used to alienate and isolate you from others, most especially your loved ones or co-workers.
The silent treatment is commonly used by narcissists and sociopaths. It is dished out as punishment, and means the victim ceases to exist in their world.
Realizing the true extend of the toxic family, and understanding that what happened was in fact abuse is a long and difficult journey. It is only the first step on our road to recovery, but it really is the most important one. That first step toward a better, more healthy life.
Just like Narcissus and Echo needed each other, so the narcissist and the enabler have a symbiotic relationship.
Emotional abuse may be an elusive concept to many, for people who have been on the receiving end it is only too tangible. The effects of emotional or narcissistic abuse are many, and healing from these can be challenging.
Most of us are familiar with the term 'Stockholm Syndrome' from TV shows like Law & Order or CSI. We associate it with the kidnap and abuse of young children. There are many cases recorded where children, when rescued, felt love towards their abuser. Although less widely known, Stockholm Syndrome also influences many adult victims of emotional abuse.