We all know the power of habit, particularly the strength of the “tapes” that run in our heads even when the abuser is gone, they can cause holiday stress
The demands and expectations my abuser had surrounding the holidays were stressful. My life’s much happier and more peaceful since shaking off those demands
Once I got myself and my girls away from him, I realized we would have to create new traditions. I didn’t want to keep up the same things out of habit when most of those things sucked the joy right out of my holidays.
Survivors of abuse often struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Within the abuse dynamic, boundaries were unacceptable for the abuser.
To release the past and embrace the future is such an important topic. Finding ways to find positive growth in adversity and trauma will help this process.
There is so much freedom in that kind of forgiveness, rather than the type of forgiveness that kept us emotionally enslaved.
So let me start by saying that the positive we will we consider here is not some perky-pants denial accompanied by a chirpy, “Oh, I’m fine!” Why? You aren’t fine.
There are days when you think nothing would be more satisfying than stooping to their level. Please climb back up to that high road if you can manage…
Negative experiences are part of life, and they do not really mean anything. Most people can shrug these experiences off quite easily, but with a bully in your head, it is all too easy to follow your own thoughts down the Whirlpool of Depression. So what we need to do is evict the bully! Shut them up and we will be able to simply move past the negative experience and continue on our merry way.
For the longest time I thought there was something inherently wrong with me. I never thought I could be happy.