It seems there are quite a few very useful (yet bizarre) holidays for us survivors at the moment. We celebrated Forgiveness Day last week, and this Friday is Compliment Your Mirror Day. The perfect day to talk to you all about mirror work.
You know the pre-flight talk to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others? The same is true when helping another heal from trauma.
This week we recorded a podcast on PTSD (it will be available soon). That of course meant that I did quite some thinking and reading on the topic too.
My hope is that now I view myself in a different light, people will see the change and respect what they see.
Saying No is hard, isn’t it? It is something so many struggle with in their lives. Saying No means disappointing someone, it means creating conflict, it makes us feel rude and maybe even disliked. Survivors of abuse often have an even harder time saying ‘No’, I know I did!
Abuse survivors go to huge lengths to be liked and get everyone’s approval. It often means denying their own wants and needs.
Although I understand that everyone will at some point in their lives trust someone they shouldn’t, emotional abuse makes our trust meter go haywire.
Learning to fly, the transition from adolescent to adult is a tremendously difficult time and all of us vary in our ages and maturity when this period comes.