A picture is a freeze frame, a moment perfectly preserved. But does that picture represent what is actually going on? Or is it used to manipulate perceptions, and make life seems something different than it is?
Toxic people both demean and overemphasize health and self-care. While being criticized for not healing and for trying to heal, I’d be told I’d die a horrible, slow, young death.
Whenever I feel like this whole “history of parental emotional abuse” is getting me down, I like to focus on the positive lessons I learned from my toxic parents. Even if I learned them the hard way.
The journey through recovery and healing after abuse is a long and winding one. It can even feel like a never-ending one… Honestly, I get frustrated sometime too. I rage at the injustice and the pain of yet another anxiety attack, I despair and finding yet another trigger, I weep over yet another newly recovered […]
Trauma survivors hide from their feelings and emotions because of how overwhelming it can be to experience an emotion related to a difficult time in our lives.
They say that emotional abuse is some of the worse, because you are consumed by your own thoughts. Luckily, you can break the thought loop!
When we talk about SwanWaters, we often explain it as a place of support and validation. There is a reason why we specifically highlight validation, because it fulfills a multitude of important functions in the process of recovery.
Even when survivors distance themselves from a toxic person, we often still hear their voice in our heads, drowning out our own inner-voice and reaffirming the doubt that was planted a long time ago. In effect, we have a bully in our head.
There are so very many truths about healing from abuse, and we talk about many. There are a few insights that really had a positive impact on my journey.
Not allowing forgiveness to apply to ourselves is like holding a grudge against ourselves for getting wet in the rain.