In the aftermath of abuse, we often have to deal with a myriad of PTSD triggers. Daily life was abuse, now daily life is a reminder of that abuse. By that I mean that sometimes the most normal activities and events can trigger memories and emotional flashbacks. That means that the most mundane tasks can become very difficult to manage.
Do you sometimes just walking around like a headless chicken? Do you, like me, like to sit down for a moment, pour yourself a cuppa and put pen to paper?
A picture is a freeze frame, a moment perfectly preserved. But does that picture represent what is actually going on? Or is it used to manipulate perceptions, and make life seems something different than it is?
Toxic people both demean and overemphasize health and self-care. While being criticized for not healing and for trying to heal, I’d be told I’d die a horrible, slow, young death.
Whenever I feel like this whole “history of parental emotional abuse” is getting me down, I like to focus on the positive lessons I learned from my toxic parents. Even if I learned them the hard way.
Your potential to heal from the abuse is unequivocally linked to your commitment to doing the work. This is manifestation and the power of thought at its core.
Trauma survivors hide from their feelings and emotions because of how overwhelming it can be to experience an emotion related to a difficult time in our lives.
They say that emotional abuse is some of the worse, because you are consumed by your own thoughts. Luckily, you can break the thought loop!
When we talk about SwanWaters, we often explain it as a place of support and validation. There is a reason why we specifically highlight validation, because it fulfills a multitude of important functions in the process of recovery.
Even when survivors distance themselves from a toxic person, we often still hear their voice in our heads, drowning out our own inner-voice and reaffirming the doubt that was planted a long time ago. In effect, we have a bully in our head.