The most painful response I have received after telling someone about my decision to cut contact with my parents was: ‘You can’t, you will break their soul’. Why, after half a lifetime of pain and damage does the world still expect me to prioritize my abusers pain over my own?
Mother’s Day can be tough for people who have chosen to break contact with their parent(s) and be in essence motherless by choice. It is a day where we can feel particularly orphaned.
Helping others increases my own healing. Paying it forward does not make me feel stuck in the past. It helps me to keep driving forward.
Coraline spoiler alert This weekend we decided to spend the somewhat overcast Sunday indoors. So I ended up watching a film on television with some extended Family of Choice. We came across Coraline, a 2009 children’s animation about a girl who finds her way to an idealized version of her frustrating life, but (of course) this […]