One way I like to reflect on my healing journey is to look back over my own writing. It gives me glimpses of how far I’ve come.
It occurs to me that people want survivors to just “get over it”. The healing is superficial as the emphasis is not on being well, but on being well enough.
This month at SwanWaters, we’re looking at confrontation. And where possible, we are shining a light on one of the more nuanced subcategories of this topic: difficult conversations. From being unable to avoid talking to your abusive ex to talking with a friend who has hurt your feelings, we’ve got you covered! Below you’ll find […]
The normalization of toxic relationships goes beyond just that. These toxic dynamics are also celebrated. No wonder we are confused!
Do you know someone who’s so afraid of conflict that they’ll just not make any decisions or voice any opinions? This is utterly unaccommodating behavior.
We can’t be constantly in survival mode while also trying to heal. So ask yourself if Facebook makes you anxious, maybe it’s time to take a Facebook fast.
Everybody gets that. I don’t believe that anyone, any human being, doesn’t from time to time have a meltdown. Welcome to the human race.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
When you hear the term “self-care:, what do you think of? Most of us picture pedicures and facials. That does sound nice, but is it really self-care?