We’d been working up to it for months… and then the day was finally there! Aubrey’s first book was to be published. We celebrated with a wonderful live event on Facebook.
The day that forever changed my life was daunting. Cutting ties with my parents. It felt like I was cutting away the safety net I was convinced I needed.
All survivors have those types of triggers. In fact, sometimes it can be a smell, or a song, or seeing someone in the street who looks just like our abuser.
There is mostly quantity of conversation in my family though, not quality. Lots of noise, but little real communication.
reminds you of how brave and strong you are for standing tall in the face of your abuser. How far you have come on your journey.
When you are a target of a toxic person, especially when there are more people in the dynamic, they will make sure you feel isolated and alone.
Toxic people take no responsibility for any of their behavior. They will try to have deniability, although they’re also prone to the ‘stone cold denial’.
Living in a toxic family meant there was always some drama going on, and my parents were often in the eye of the storm. See, that is how they tend to roll.
Ever notice how some people are never to blame for anything? Every toxic person I have ever met operates under the principle: denial, denial, denial!
I truly don’t remember a time in my life when I did not feel shame. We’re not talking about the same thing as guilt.