It’s July 4, Independence Day here in the U.S. So many people in our country, however, are not free yet. They suffer in silence and hide in plain sight.
When living with an abusive partner, your “fight or flight” response is always at a heightened state, keeping your brain in a constant mode of anxiety. So it’s no wonder we get sick more often
This is not about arguing what’s right or wrong, or what’s in the legal orders. Those things are black and white. This is about CREATING modes of attack when all other means have been exhausted.
You cannot judge whether or not someone is a victim of emotional/mental abuse by outward appearances of any sort. We learn to mask our shame and pain.
That’s what happens when you spend your days in an emotional foxhole, trying to anticipate another person’s moods and make sense of crazy
One of the phenomena I spoke of before is “abuse by proxy”. This is a well-known and predictable response by an abuser who has reached a point of desperation and uses other means to intimidate, harass or otherwise continue the abuse.
Today I’m going to begin discussing the concept of forgiveness. The “F word” that all well-meaning non-survivors like to remind us about, as though learning to forgive would suddenly make everything heal nicely.
You know in the movies where someone falls into quicksand and the first thing they are told is to not fight or thrash about, lest the pit of quicksand swallow them whole?
Liberation from abuse takes hard work and focus, not to mention a lot of sweat and tears. Make no mistake, folks… I did not get to where I am in my recovery on my own and you likely won‘t do it alone, either. Not only have I been blessed with a large group of phenomenal […]
Freedom means different things to different people. Freedom for me meant that I was free from a life of sadness, of pain, and desperation.