I often talk about healing from trauma in terms of learning, because I think that is really what this boils down to. We learn to better understand our own story and how it influenced and influences us. We learn to recognize our triggers. We learn to respond to those triggers in better ways, We learn how to have a healthier relationship with the people we love, and most of all we learn how to have a better relationship with ourselves. We learn self-care and boundaries, and the list goes on. Yeah, basically you are enrolled in ‘Me 101’.
Self-care is the most critical piece of your healing because it is how you reclaim your soul, learn to dance with it, then send it out into the world to live joyfully.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
Love bombing is a manipulation tactic used by abusers—of all kinds—to convince the people they want to use that they are worthy of trust; using it as a bargaining chip to fall back on if the target starts realizing that they’re being mistreated.
Recovery from trauma is achieved in one square foot of real estate…one’s own head. Aubrey Cole shares 3 regular practices to reframe your thinking
Our self-talk can be absolutely brutal. But why is that? We are most definitely capable of compassion, why do we struggle so much with self-compassion?
Many survivors buy into the idea that the process of forgiving and letting go also means never getting mad about the abuse again. Nothing could be less true
This question comes up quite a bit when I talk to survivors: Why is my abuser so successful? Many abusers are mostly very successful at projecting an image.
Mags shares some concepts and tools that she finds useful when trying to be resilient while experiencing complex (negative) emotions.
So many people only associate PTSD with combat soldiers, and those who have dealt with domestic violence know what it is like to fight a constant war at home.