I want to talk to you about abusive religious leaders—while also exploring the general ways that toxic people show different faces to different targets
Recovery takes a lot of time but the beauty is, the more you develop habits, the more confidence you build and the more efficient your recovery becomes
When abusers say, ‘You reap what you sow’ it means ‘you are the real cause of the abuse’. But is there truth to this old adage that abusers fail to see?
I discovered 4 specific actions that helped me to learn to forgive myself and, repeated over time, took me to a new place in my healing.
Let us reclaim forgiveness, as a tool for empowerment not a sign of submission. Forgiveness should be more about letting go than turning the other cheek.
It took many years for me to understand that guilt and shame are two entirely different things with vastly different impacts.
Guilt is a complex emotion, but one survivors of abuse are intimately familiar with. The experience of abuse is -among many other complicated things- the world biggest guilt trip.
In the aftermath of abuse, we often have to deal with a myriad of PTSD triggers. Daily life was abuse, now daily life is a reminder of that abuse. By that I mean that sometimes the most normal activities and events can trigger memories and emotional flashbacks. That means that the most mundane tasks can become very difficult to manage.
The thing about PTSD and recovery is that it’s complex. It’s not as simples as 1 2 3 you’re fixed. There were definitely times that I thought some of my problems were PTSD specific, but it turned out that some things were just general, across-the-board human experiences.
SwanWaters recently started sending out daily journaling prompts, a phrase a paragraph, a quote, a thought… Anything that will inspire thought and writing.