It took many years for me to understand that guilt and shame are two entirely different things with vastly different impacts.
Mags shares some concepts and tools that she finds useful when trying to be resilient while experiencing complex (negative) emotions.
‘Will we ever escape our past?!’ Mags reckons it can’t be done. But, what if you could relate to your past in a positive way, not a painful reminder?
A picture is a freeze frame, a moment perfectly preserved. But does that picture represent what is actually going on? Or is it used to manipulate perceptions, and make life seems something different than it is?
Once I got myself and my girls away from him, I realized we would have to create new traditions. I didn’t want to keep up the same things out of habit when most of those things sucked the joy right out of my holidays.
To release the past and embrace the future is such an important topic. Finding ways to find positive growth in adversity and trauma will help this process.
I feel pretty confident that the whole SwanWaters team will give you are resounding YES! Helping others is at the core of our organization.
So let me start by saying that the positive we will we consider here is not some perky-pants denial accompanied by a chirpy, “Oh, I’m fine!” Why? You aren’t fine.
There are days when you think nothing would be more satisfying than stooping to their level. Please climb back up to that high road if you can manage…
When you first think of going no contact with your abuser, you may think that it’s as simple as just ignoring the phone calls. There is more to it than that.