There was only one person who could be there for me all the time and have only my best interest at heart: me. I had to become the protector of my own brain.
I often talk about healing from trauma in terms of learning, because I think that is really what this boils down to. We learn to better understand our own story and how it influenced and influences us. We learn to recognize our triggers. We learn to respond to those triggers in better ways, We learn how to have a healthier relationship with the people we love, and most of all we learn how to have a better relationship with ourselves. We learn self-care and boundaries, and the list goes on. Yeah, basically you are enrolled in ‘Me 101’.
Recovery takes a lot of time but the beauty is, the more you develop habits, the more confidence you build and the more efficient your recovery becomes
Our self-talk can be absolutely brutal. But why is that? We are most definitely capable of compassion, why do we struggle so much with self-compassion?
I discovered 4 specific actions that helped me to learn to forgive myself and, repeated over time, took me to a new place in my healing.
It took many years for me to understand that guilt and shame are two entirely different things with vastly different impacts.
Mags shares some concepts and tools that she finds useful when trying to be resilient while experiencing complex (negative) emotions.
‘Will we ever escape our past?!’ Mags reckons it can’t be done. But, what if you could relate to your past in a positive way, not a painful reminder?
A picture is a freeze frame, a moment perfectly preserved. But does that picture represent what is actually going on? Or is it used to manipulate perceptions, and make life seems something different than it is?
Once I got myself and my girls away from him, I realized we would have to create new traditions. I didn’t want to keep up the same things out of habit when most of those things sucked the joy right out of my holidays.