Rick shared the life altering insight of State of Consciousness that helped me better understand myself and shape the consulting, training, coaching and mentoring I’ve done since
When I was finally able to talk about the abuse without becoming angry or vengeful, I realized that something in me had shifted, that I had started healing
The further I progress my own healing, the more I learn what separates those who survive from the ones that thrive. So let’s look at surviving vs thriving!
I declared Victory every morning as I woke up and every evening as I lay my head on the pillow.
When I first liberated myself from the abuse, I thought that was the biggest step. Several months later I realized clearly that this was not the end, but the beginning of another challenge. Healing.
Many survivors of abuse chose to “go no contact” with their abuser. It is a state in which we deny the abuser direct access to us. We are often accused of selfishness (especially those who cut contact with their parents or siblings), but no contact is not about the abuser.
We hear a lot about Karma, people saying, “Oh, don’t you worry… he/she will get his/hers.” The problem is we look at Karma the wrong way. We are so used to keeping score in the relationship because, in an abuse dynamic, everything is transactional.
You can meditate whenever, wherever, AND you don’t even have to sit down to do it! That means that really everyone can give meditation a try, even if you have 2 kids, 3 dogs and a parakeet.
Healing from abuse of any kind is best accomplished by understanding and allowing your emotions. The one we seems to be most afraid of is anger.
The abuser makes the victim feel responsible for their well-being, and even have them take responsibility for the abuse itself.