Even when survivors distance themselves from a toxic person, we often still hear their voice in our heads, drowning out our own inner-voice and reaffirming the doubt that was planted a long time ago. In effect, we have a bully in our head.
Even the most well-meaning person, if not the survivor of abuse, can ask themselves why did she not leave the situation? (Or he of course, since men are targets of domestic abuse too) After all, it’s a logical question, particularly when the target stays in the abusive relationship sometimes for decades. It’s so incredibly hard to understand if you have not lived it, but for those of us who have, there are four common reasons behind why we stay.
Survivors of abuse feel isolated by the dysfunctional chaos around them, and think escape is impossible. Connecting with peers is key to the healing journey
Alas most of you can relate to the duality of living with abuse. Covering up the scars – visible or not. Never showing your fears or anxiety.
Emotional abuse may be an elusive concept to many, for people who have been on the receiving end it is only too tangible. The effects of emotional or narcissistic abuse are many, and healing from these can be challenging.
Indulge me, and reflect on that for a second. What you are effectively asking me to do is forgive and forget the first 30+ years of my life.
Similar to the Recovery Roller-coaster, improving parenting and stopping the cycle of abuse for your kids (even if that “kid” is you) will come in phases.
You know the pre-flight talk to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others? The same is true when helping another heal from trauma.
In this podcast our Swan couple continues to talk about support after realizing they had been exposed to emotional abuse.
People may be miles apart, there is little difference in how emotional abuse is perpetrated. This list will help you spot the emotional abuser in your life.