A picture is a freeze frame, a moment perfectly preserved. But does that picture represent what is actually going on? Or is it used to manipulate perceptions, and make life seems something different than it is?
We all know the power of habit, particularly the strength of the “tapes” that run in our heads even when the abuser is gone, they can cause holiday stress
Negative experiences are part of life, and they do not really mean anything. Most people can shrug these experiences off quite easily, but with a bully in your head, it is all too easy to follow your own thoughts down the Whirlpool of Depression. So what we need to do is evict the bully! Shut them up and we will be able to simply move past the negative experience and continue on our merry way.
For the longest time I thought there was something inherently wrong with me. I never thought I could be happy.
In this podcast about my no contact anniversary, I talk about more complicated emotions like anger and guilt, and how sometimes we feel tired of recovery.
There are a few reasons why celebrating your success is important. All of them are worth your while, and all of them will make your healing journey easier.
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”
We all worry, get anxious and stressed! Rationally we are able to tell ourselves that we shouldn't stress, but it can be hard to get our gut to follow suit.
I find myself typing about CPTSD, and how it gets to turn a funny, loving, and positive person, into a blubbering fool who is ready to just give up.
No Contact is a term I didn’t even grasp at the time I decided to do it. So for better or worse, I didn’t know what to expect when I went NC…