While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
This week, that memory came back to me. Not because the hashtag triggered me necessarily, but because I was very hesitant to add my #metoo.
Heather Dane and Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz talk about toxic relationships in this 1 hour Hay House Radio broadcast, and I know you are going to connect to it.
When living with an abusive partner, your “fight or flight” response is always at a heightened state, keeping your brain in a constant mode of anxiety. So it’s no wonder we get sick more often
In my experience it has been far harder to deal with the Flying Monkey, than with the actual abuser(s). I felt far more confused, hurt and unbalanced after encounters, than I did for example in the aftermath of no contact.
Co-parenting requires both parents to have rational discussions about raising children.
I personally have suffered from workplace bullying in a major UK retail concern, and it was horrendous. Already suffering from low self-esteem, I was reduced to periods of extreme depression. I had to talk myself into going to work every morning because ‘I needed the money’.
Remember that when you are dealing with your abuser you will need to have a clear idea for yourself of what you consider a “winning” outcome.
One of the things we survivors of abuse have in common is the inability to get our abuser to just go away after the relationship is over.
As you walk this road recovery, know that it’s perfectly fine to have those moments of mourning. You lost something and it was huge. Grief is normal