The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
With abusers constantly attacking our boundaries, we develop toxicity; a defense mechanism consisting of a set of unhealthy attitudes and behavior to cope
Every time we set ourselves overly ambitious goals that are doomed to get the better of us, we feel like a failure.
Sometimes it is easier to just put down one big boundary rather than 100 little, individual ones. The biggest of all big boundaries is obviously No Contact
Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
Survivors of abuse may often go into over-justifying our boundaries more than being poor at communicating boundaries in general.
A while ago, I wrote a little blog about people who are energy drains (you can find it here) In it I wrote: “There are people in this world who leave you feeling totally depleted. Not even after a day of intense arguing about something, but instantly. The second you see them, you feel your […]
If we were to believe abusers and toxic people, then enforcing boundaries is the most selfish act in the world. But are boundaries really selfish?
For your convenience and reading pleasure: a round-up of all the articles that SwanWaters has shared this week. Happy Sunday!
This podcast was originally posted on 1 January 2018, so I do talk about New Year’s Resolutions… but goal setting is something you can do all year round!