Antique Christmas Ornament

I had a lovely holiday, but I realize my parents still mess with my head a little at this time of year (It has been over two years since I last spoke to them). There is more than just a meteorological chill in the air. Random events seem to trigger paranoia. Are they trying to get me back for Christmas? And of course the onslaught of happy families on television takes its toll; there is so much emphasis on romance, family, and togetherness that it’s pretty much impossible not to feel like the odd one out.

No Comparisons

You realize what the trick is, though, not to get swept away in the emotion of it all, right? Stop comparing! Not only stop comparing yourself to the rest of the world, but also stop comparing your present life to the life you had—or wished you had. The only life you have is the life you are living, right? So stop comparing it to all the other lives you might have had. Leave it to the parallel-universe you to have that great family life, that magic marriage, or that winning lottery ticket.

Look for The Good

You may not have grasped every dream and wish in your heart, but there are good things in your life, I guarantee it. There are great people that love and support you. There are hobbies you love, museums you cannot wait to see, and parks you are itching to take a walk through. There is music that moves you to your core, there are dishes that you cannot wait to stick your fork in. And believe me that however bleak you think your life is, there are always happy memories that cannot wait to be made.

The Warm Blanket

When it comes to those sad feelings, those days you keep longing for your dreams and wishes, you pull those good things around you. Like a blanket keeping out the cold.

So when I felt the chill in the air this Christmas, I pulled my blanket close. I spent time with the people that love me most, cooked the meals I could indulge in, and planned activities that I enjoy whole-heartedly. I distracted myself with happiness, I guess. And I had a lovely relaxed Christmas as a result.

Hold On To The Positivity

So as you are boxing up your decorations, make this resolution: from now until forever, you will pull your warm blanket of goodness tight around you. Promise yourself to focus on all that is positive in your life. It may not take away the hurt, or stop life from being complicated, but it will keep you warm on cold days, at least… 😉

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Having gained experience while working for a variety of European non-profits, I am proud to now work with SwanWaters. My connection with the website is not only professional. I am glad to tap into my personal experiences to help those who are living in toxic relationships whether with parents, partners or in their professional life. We need to make the world more aware of the devastating effects of emotional abuse and help more people on their way to heal and thrive.

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