It seems there are quite a few very useful (yet bizarre) holidays for us survivors at the moment. We celebrated Forgiveness Day last week, and this Friday (July 3rd) is Compliment Your Mirror Day. The perfect day to talk to you all about mirror work.
My Mirrored Wardrobe
I think I have mentioned in one of the podcasts, that our apartment has a build in wardrobe with HUGE floor to ceiling mirrored doors. When we moved in here last year, I was horrified! I hate looking in the mirror, and the prospect of having to do so every time I entered the bedroom freaked me out. Especially since the main switch for the heating is in there, and the wardrobe includes our coat rack. So I could not even limit my mirror exposure to morning and evening.
When I started reading into affirmations and mirror work more, I decided to embrace the mega mirrors. I decided to see them as a great opportunity to talk to myself for a bit. It is actually that mirror that made me aware of how much negative self-talk was going on in my head. I was constantly criticising my appearance, but not just that. Those critical thoughts were often followed by little remarks like: ‘How can any one take you seriously’ or ‘No wonder you are struggling in life’.
It actually surprised me that I was so hard on myself. Isn’t that strange? I was not only unaware of that inner-monologue, I was gob-smacked when I became aware of it. I knew I needed to change that, and that is why I started to compliment my mirror. Now when I pass that mirror I will smile and say something like: ‘Morning gorgeous’ or ‘Rocking the working vibe my dear’.
Mirror Work In the Words of Louise Hay
Does It Feel Weird?
I felt like a fool when I first got started. Standing there, staring deep into my own eyes. I am not actually sure what felt more uncomfortable, the actual activity or the fact that I was giving myself positive feedback. For years I had been repeating every line that I was fed by my abuser. It takes some time and discomfort to break that habit.
Decide to enjoy that process though, don’t start punishing yourself for finding this difficult, weird or uncomfortable. Have a laugh, and enjoy spending some time with yourself!
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