The resources below are all about getting out of an abusive situation. Escape from Abuse is hard, and it almost always means an uptick in the abuse itself. It is therefore important that you plan, prepare, get help and keep yourself safe.
“The nagging question of when and how to know it’s time to leave remains. Since abuse alters one’s logical thought processes, the challenge is to pull your thinking out of that tailspin. I know for me, the tipping point was the experience in the Paris train station where the attack was against my children and their emotional pain tore at me with the force of an atomic bomb.”
Why Should I Leave?
Why You Should Leave an Abuser (podcast)
Domestic violence is not about a single incident, he explained, but an abuser’s attempts to control a victim’s life by depriving them of resources, threatening them, isolating them and disabling their ability to effectively leave.
It’s those behaviors that put a victim at an extremely high risk of being killed, he said, even when there is no physical violence, or physical violence is minimal.
“Based on my research, if you rely on physical injury before you identify a case as serious, you miss 95 to 98 percent of all domestic violence,” he said. “Often the severe assault is the fatal assault. It comes as a culmination.”
How to Leave an Abuser
“When people are highly traumatised, thinking through really complex arrangements like how exactly you’re going to leave a relationship that’s this violent and this frightening is really difficult to process,”
Find Help and Finances to Leave
Once You Made It Out