How to use resilience to deal with the big stuff

As survivors of abuse we sometimes feel we have to beat a lot of odds… I know that sometimes we feel so overwhelmed by life’s circumstances that may to the rational mind seem marginal, that we want to just give up. Because the prospect of even those small hurdles makes us remember the huge task of healing that lies in front of us. It makes us feel that we will never be able to deal with life’s big stuff, the complications that every life knows and every person has to face.

Develop resilience and be brave. There are days when it is very discouraging. You have to develop personal resilience to environmental things that come along. If you let every single environmental challenge knock you off your game, it’s going to be very, very hard.
Renee James

In today’s podcast we speak to Michael and Mags about resilience. How we can train ourselves to become more resilient, and how those skills will help take the edges of the big and small issues we face on our path.

The Podcast

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Further Resources

Mags mentions the affirmation exercise describes in Basics of Coping with Emotional Abuse. She also references the Recovery Roadmap.

Michael also asked to make these resources available to help you on your resilience journey.

DownloadResiliency Essentials

Resiliency is our ability to deal with BIG Stuff. We create more successful outcomes the more resilient we are, despite the obstacles and heartaches we all face in life.

DownloadTurmoil Breathing

Turmoil breathing is a process and skill set for staying calm and clearheaded during very
challenging situations.

More breathing/meditative resources by Michael are available here.

Self-Leadership Skills Model

Phase 1





Phase 2


Michael’s Udemy course ‘Imagine Yourself – What to do when adversity strikes is available now! (Follow this link for a discount!)

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Michael Ballard
Michael is an author, speaker, trainer, and consultant. He travels the world helping people learn how to add more resilience into their lives at home, work and community. Michael specializes in helping people, families, organizations and community’s learn how to thrive with resiliency. Resilience is a process, a set of key assets, skills and beliefs that can change our lives. Resiliency can changes the quality of our journey and often the quality of the outcomes. Connect with Michael on Twitter and Facebook or check his website for more information. Michael's new book "The Gift" is due out in later winter 2016.


Having gained experience while working for a variety of European non-profits, I am proud to now work with SwanWaters. My connection with the website is not only professional. I am glad to tap into my personal experiences to help those who are living in toxic relationships whether with parents, partners or in their professional life. We need to make the world more aware of the devastating effects of emotional abuse and help more people on their way to heal and thrive.


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