Someone keeping you on edge and off balance?
A parent, partner or co-worker? You can meet toxic people anywhere. They are bullies or even abusers… Dealing with those people is tricky.
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Below is an overview of articles that will help your understanding of what is going on. There is a lot there, so we organized it into some categories. You will probably find that you want to take in the information in increments, and you may feel an urge to talk through the things you are learning and how they relate to you. Join our Community of Survivors to talk about your story and get help understanding what’s going on.
One thing that we at SwanWaters.com have learned is that while survivors may be thousands of miles apart, the strategies used by their emotional abuser are eerily similar. These articles tell you about the basic personality traits and behaviors of toxic people, bullies and abusers.
When you grow up with toxic or emotionally abusive parents, it can be very difficult to understand what is going on. The indoctrination begin from the moment you are born, and your frame of reference is entirely controlled by your family of origins. These articles can also be helpful when you are dealing with abuse in other settings.
Different Roles in a Toxic Family (podcast)
If you are or have been in a toxic relationship, these articles will sound familiar to you! These articles will however also contain valuable information for people in other abusive settings, AND for people who want to support targets and survivors of abuse (more resources especially for those heroes here)
Bodies in the Basement (blog series & ebook)
Talking Toxic Romance (podcast)
The games and strategies that bullies and abusers use to manipulate and target people all follow certain patterns. It is actually a little weird how simelar our various stories are… Sometimes it feels like articles about abusive strategies are pages taken directly from the abusers manual…
Financial Abuse (podcast)
The Abusive Dynamic
Abuse and bullying is all about power and control. Abusers manipulate targets, enablers and even whole communities to benefit and hide their abuse. Here are some resources that will help you begin to unravel the dynamic that has been spun around you.
The Identified Patient (podcast)
Effects of Emotional Abuse
The effects of emotional abuse are so often downplayed by the world. Realize though that any form of abuse will have emotional, mental and even physical effects on the target. In this section we begin to explore these effects.
The ACE Study is Why (video)