I am a bit of a closet geek. Not that I have Star Trek uniforms or Lightsabers in the house or anything. But I really enjoy generous helpings of Science Fiction from time to time. So when the news reached me last week that Leonard Nimoy had departed from this world it made me sad. Especially since he seemed like a very decent sort of person.
I’m touched by the idea that when we do things that are useful and helpful — collecting these shards of spirituality — that we may be helping to bring about a healing.— Leonard Nimoy
The Unexpected Topic
I hadn’t actually thought of dedicating a blog post to Mr. Nimoy, but as with any celebrity passing my social media feeds soon filled with quotes and stories. One such story that really touched my heart was that of a girl who had sent a letter to a magazine about her experiences of being bullied. Leonard Nimoy had been so touched by the girl’s letter that he responded, in the voice of his famous character, Mr. Spock. You can find the whole article on Upworthy.
To me emotional abuse and bullying are two flavors of the same candy. The context may be different, but the strategies and consequences are often the same. As I was reading through Mr. Spock’s letter, here is what stood out to me:
It takes a great deal of courage to turn your back on popularity, and to go out on your own. Although inside you’re not really like the members of the pack, it’s still frightening to decide to leave them, because as long as you are popular you at least have someone to hang around with. But if you do leave then you may end up all alone.
Now there is a little voice inside each of us that tells us when we are not being true to ourselves. We should listen to this voice. Often we try to talk ourselves into believing our actions are good – ‘it is okay to pick on that person’ we say, because it may make us popular for a while with the pack.
But usually there is no good reason for picking on anyone. He’s only bullied or turned away because of his background, because of the way he looks or talks or thinks. It is always only because he is different not worth less personally than anyone else.
How This Relates to Emotional Abuse
I feel that bit of the letter may as well be about walking away from our abusers, and the temptation of being a Flying Monkey just to keep ourselves safe for a little longer.
He is right. There is a little voice inside our heads that tells us what is wrong and right. Our abusers may have tried to disconnect the speaker, but it is there. But as for those of us who are healing, we must listen to that voice. It is our compass on this journey.
It may lead us to a place that feels lonely at times, but I have learned from experience, though, that the more I listen to that voice, the more connected I have become to people that love and respect me for the person I am.
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