Now that you are free, who will you be?
While we are subjected to abuse, we become an extension of our abuser. We forget (and are made to forget) who we really are. Our likes and dislikes, our talents and weaknesses, our very personality becomes hijacked for the purpose of the abuser’s games.
Now is the time to find your new self and build a life you love.
Ready to go from surviving to thriving? This is the place for you.
- Build confidence and self-esteem
- Practice self-care
- Learn about PTSD and how to deal with it
- Focus on positivity and happiness (time to thrive!)
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You are out, you are free, you have made it through the swamp of your memories? Now it is time to build a new self and a new life. It is time to move from surviving to thriving! Below is an overview of our resources on how to make the most of your new life, and also how to deal with things when you past creeps up on you. Join our Community of Survivors to talk about your new life and the successes and challenges you encounter.
In the aftermath of abuse, it can be only too easy to give into the negative thoughts and feelings. Staying positive may be challenging… it is also a great asset in your life. It gives us the mental and emotional space to change our life for the better.However, positivity is NOT about simply pushing away the bad (that would be harmful) but about emphasizing the good. Read more about the benefits of positivity and learn how you too can add more positivity to your life.
Many survivors develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in the aftermath of abuse. Below is some information about PTSD, how it relates to abuse and how you can deal with some of the symptoms.
How Narcissistic Parents Destroy the Soul (trigger warning)
We have collected a load of useful links relating to PTSD. Check it out.
Learning New Skills
With a new understanding of relationships, the world, ourselves… it is understandable that we have a lot of new skills to learn. Here are some resources to help you put your new life together.
Compliment Your Mirror Day (about affirmations and mirror work)
New Friendships and Relationships
In your new life, you will find new relationships. New friends, new co-workers or even new romantic partners. Or perhaps you will find that your existing relationships are changing as you heal. Here are some resources on how to deal with those new bounds.
Learning to Trust Again (podcast)
Acceptance, Compassion & Forgiveness
These are all pretty big topics, and important ones to consider when you really want to leave the abuse behind you. Here are some of our thoughts and suggestions.
Self-Care and Health
Many survivors struggle with self-care. At some level, our abusers have made us feel we are not worthy of loving ourselves and caring for ourselves. Or perhaps we just never learned the necessary skills. Here are some resources to help you understand and learn self-care and health.
My Healing Goals
It is great to talk about a healing journey, but what is the destination? Growing, learning and self-improvement are as much part of life as they are part of our road to recovery.
3 Powerful Steps to Reprogram Holiday Stress (but it works for other days too)