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Paying it forward is never far from our minds at SwanWaters. Yesterday, a fellow Swan missed an telephone call we had arranged (I am not mentioning this to name and shame btw). Today she got back to me and explained she had been stuck in a conversation. When she had gone to see her gardener, she had ended up in a conversation with his wife. She turned out to be a Swan, and my friend was the first fellow Swan she came across. She ended up listening to 5 hours of this woman’s recollections and realisations. In short,  5 hours of healing.

“You remember what it was like when you first met other Swans” she explained.

Oh, Boy! Do I Remember!

Connecting to fellow Swans is so important on our Swan Journeys. The realisation of what was going on was only one part for me. Having the validation of others really helped understanding that there was nothing inherently wrong with me. The problems I was experiencing were the result of the toxicity of my family. Typing away at my thoughts and reading the responses of true understanding and support helped me plough through emotions and make lasting connections. Connections that lead me here :)

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It has been a while since those early days, and I have come a long way. I don’t need to talk about my youth all the time. When we started the site I understood that there are many Swans out there who are in need of the validation and support I craved once upon a time. For me, that was enough reason to keep going. Since then I have learned a very important lesson: helping others increases my own healing. By explaining my insights, I solidified and expanded my own learning.

Paying it forward does not make me feel stuck in the past. It helps me to keep driving forward.

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Having gained experience while working for a variety of European non-profits, I am proud to now work with SwanWaters. My connection with the website is not only professional. I am glad to tap into my personal experiences to help those who are living in toxic relationships whether with parents, partners or in their professional life. We need to make the world more aware of the devastating effects of emotional abuse and help more people on their way to heal and thrive.

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