Processing Your Memories

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Your life was not normal, but it was your reality!

Now that you are ready to move on from the abuse, it is important to go through your memories. To express the anger, the grief, the relief and everything in between.

Processing your memories and emotions is important. Finding help from a counselor is greatly beneficial, but sharing with a community of survivors will help your healing tremendously!

Are you ready to tell your story? Looking for validation, feedback and support? This is the place for you.

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  • Read personal stories from your fellow-survivors
  • Share your own stories and memories
  • Process your emotions and feelings
  • Write and journal about your story and healing
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4 Ways to Start a Journal for Emotional Healing What Self-Reflection Can Do For You Why Validation is So Important

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Below is an overview of articles that will help you make sense of your memories. We share our favorite techniques and tools, but also let you in on how we have processed and healed. Going through your memories can be daunting! Seriously, we GET it. Interacting with felllow-survivors is immensely beneficial. Validation and support will feel like a warm bath for your soul. Join our Community of Survivors to talk about your story and heal from your experiences.

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Coming to Terms with a Toxic Upbringing

Here are some articles about the impact of a toxic childhood. The articles may still be interesting to other survivors too, as it deals with long term effects and the behaviors we learn from abusers.

10 Lessons I Learned From My Toxic Parents (the Hard Way)

It Was Your Normal, But It Was Not Normal

Spreading My Wings

The Adult Does What the Child Was Taught

What My Emotionally Unavailable Mother Never Meant to Teach Me

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Gaining Control of Your Inner-Voice

Below are some articles to start addressing negative self-talk and taking control of your own thoughts again. For many of us the voice of our abuser is still echoing in our mind. It is time for you to stop listening to those negative messages!

10 Ways to Evict a Bully from Your Mind

Lather, Rinse, Repeat – 3 Regular Practices to Reframe Your Thinking

Emotional Armor

Help! There Is a Bully In My Head

How to Take Control of Your Inner-Monologue

Learning to Listen to Your Inner-Voice  (podcast)

Sometimes Sad Memories Serve Positive Purpose

Stuck in the Thought Loop

The Lies Inside Your Head – Dealing with Negative Self Talk

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Writing down our thoughts, feelings, and emotions is a great way to further our understanding and healing. At SwanWaters we often refer to our forum as a peer-journal. A platform where your journal will actually give you feedback and support.

4 Ways to Start a Journal for Emotional Healing

Using Journaling Prompts (sign up for SwanWaters’ Daily Journal Juice)

Effective Healing Through Journaling

Put Pen to Paper

Giving Your Memories Wings

The Effects of Sharing My Story

Write Your Way to Happiness

Do you want to learn more about journaling for emotional healing? Check out these resources, or get a copy of Finding Your Wings from Amazon.

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How to Keep Going on Your Healing Journey

We never said this healing journey was going to be easy! There will be days when you just don’t know how to keep going. When you feel you are not making enough progress or when you feel that everyone else is moving faster. Maybe you can only see how much you still have to do, and are blind to how far you have already come… Here are articles to help you on days with those feelings. Try to read these BEFORE the going gets too tough, so you have this information ready when you are in a pinch.

5 Beliefs That Stalled My Healing

An Insight Into Healing Yourself

Are You a Tortoise or a Hare?

Four Big Truths about Healing From Abuse

How to Know You are Healing

The Healing Mindset

The Long and Winding Road 

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Corrupt Programming

In the post-abuse era we are often confronted with behaviors and habits that were part of our survival strategy. Now that we no longer need to be in survival mode, we don’t need these strategies anymore. Habits can be hard to break though. So, how do you recognize and address these issues?

Marginalized Vitality of Health and Self-Care 

Reframing the Punishing Silence of Abuse

Why Validation is So Important 

7 Steps to Overcome the Behavior of a Victim

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A Good Look at Yourself

When we are healing from abuse and processing everything that happened, we need to do a fair amount of self-reflection. That is not always easy though…

The importance of Self-forgiveness

The Need to Process Emotion

Unmasking the Pain; Honoring Your Feelings during Recovery from Abuse 

What Self-Reflection Can Do For You 

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