Aubrey talk about mentally retraining yourself to put distance between you and the abuser. That’ll help you get out and stay out of an abusive relationship
This is not about arguing what’s right or wrong, or what’s in the legal orders. Those things are black and white. This is about CREATING modes of attack when all other means have been exhausted.
In my experience it has been far harder to deal with the Flying Monkey, than with the actual abuser(s). I felt far more confused, hurt and unbalanced after encounters, than I did for example in the aftermath of no contact.
One of the things we survivors of abuse have in common is the inability to get our abuser to just go away after the relationship is over.