One way I like to reflect on my healing journey is to look back over my own writing. It gives me glimpses of how far I’ve come.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”
There is a very big lie that abusers tell their targets. It is the biggest lie of all. This lie tells the target: this is all your fault!