Healing after abuse is like building a new self from the ground up. Now that you are free, who will you be? Learning new life skills is part of the journey.
No Contact is the act of taking away the abuser’s ability to contact you. Learn more about what No Contact is, how it work and what to expect from it.
By far the hardest thing to manage after you have escaped abuse and gone No Contact is your own mental boundaries. There are likely many ways to achieve retraining your thoughts, but I found four that were very successful for me.
In a world where we are hardly viewed as people, and more as the embodiment of whatever job we have, we may need to ask: what are boundaries at work anyway?
Survivors of abuse often struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Within the abuse dynamic, boundaries were unacceptable for the abuser.
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”
Just as “domestic violence” is sometimes misunderstood as being physical beatings only, boundaries are sometimes misunderstood as being confrontational.
There is a fine balance between being prepared for legitimate threats, and just being anxious and obsessive.
When you leave the abusive situation, saying No remains as difficult as ever. Here are some strategies to say no
Encountering a toxic person can be daunting. There are some strategies for coping…