Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
Just as “domestic violence” is sometimes misunderstood as being physical beatings only, boundaries are sometimes misunderstood as being confrontational.
Saying No is hard, isn’t it? It is something so many struggle with in their lives. Saying No means disappointing someone, it means creating conflict, it makes us feel rude and maybe even disliked. Survivors of abuse often have an even harder time saying ‘No’, I know I did!