Escape from Abuse is hard, and it almost always means an uptick in the abuse itself. It is therefore important that you plan, prepare, get help and keep yourself safe.
The idea that abuse does not happen behind white picket fences or always leaves bruises is just something we tell ourselves. It makes it easier to process. It means we can think of an abuser as a monster, instead of a neighbor.
Wish you could make your child to see their abusive spouse, your siblings to see your toxic parents? No matter the context, if they’re not ready they won’t see the abuse. Here are some ways in which you can support someone you love.
Why, oh why, you ask did I end up going back to him A-GAIN? Insecurity, fear…? This is how we go round and round the cycle of abuse.
5 Ways Your Toxic Parent has Prepared You for a Toxic Partner
“Why did she not leave?” seems the standard in talking about abuse. We need to stop that. Why not ask “why he abuse her?” or even better “how can I help?”
When those hurtful barbs come hurtling toward you, toss up your emotional shield and deflect them! You deserve to live free of that kind of pain!
Fear is an emotion of negative influence and the sooner you learn to push past the fear and recognize it for what it is, you will find new peace.
I see the enabling person as one who will use every trick in the book to let the toxic person get their own way.
To talk about abuse is not only good for targets. Abuse has far reaching effects on our communities, it is in all of our best interests to address the issue