One way I like to reflect on my healing journey is to look back over my own writing. It gives me glimpses of how far I’ve come.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Escape from Abuse is hard, and it almost always means an uptick in the abuse itself. It is therefore important that you plan, prepare, get help and keep yourself safe.
The idea that abuse does not happen behind white picket fences or always leaves bruises is just something we tell ourselves. It makes it easier to process. It means we can think of an abuser as a monster, instead of a neighbor.
Wish you could make your child to see their abusive spouse, your siblings to see your toxic parents? No matter the context, if they’re not ready they won’t see the abuse. Here are some ways in which you can support someone you love.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
Why, oh why, you ask did I end up going back to him A-GAIN? Insecurity, fear…? This is how we go round and round the cycle of abuse.
5 Ways Your Toxic Parent has Prepared You for a Toxic Partner
“Why did she not leave?” seems the standard in talking about abuse. We need to stop that. Why not ask “why he abuse her?” or even better “how can I help?”