One way I like to reflect on my healing journey is to look back over my own writing. It gives me glimpses of how far I’ve come.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
The idea that abuse does not happen behind white picket fences or always leaves bruises is just something we tell ourselves. It makes it easier to process. It means we can think of an abuser as a monster, instead of a neighbor.
Wish you could make your child to see their abusive spouse, your siblings to see your toxic parents? No matter the context, if they’re not ready they won’t see the abuse. Here are some ways in which you can support someone you love.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
5 Ways Your Toxic Parent has Prepared You for a Toxic Partner
“Why did she not leave?” seems the standard in talking about abuse. We need to stop that. Why not ask “why he abuse her?” or even better “how can I help?”
Fear is an emotion of negative influence and the sooner you learn to push past the fear and recognize it for what it is, you will find new peace.
I see the enabling person as one who will use every trick in the book to let the toxic person get their own way.