One way I like to reflect on my healing journey is to look back over my own writing. It gives me glimpses of how far I’ve come.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Escape from Abuse is hard, and it almost always means an uptick in the abuse itself. It is therefore important that you plan, prepare, get help and keep yourself safe.
The idea that abuse does not happen behind white picket fences or always leaves bruises is just something we tell ourselves. It makes it easier to process. It means we can think of an abuser as a monster, instead of a neighbor.
Wish you could make your child to see their abusive spouse, your siblings to see your toxic parents? No matter the context, if they’re not ready they won’t see the abuse. Here are some ways in which you can support someone you love.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
What I did not yet realize is that sharing my story would have a profound effect on my own healing process. Or that it could positively influence so many other survivors’ lives as well.
5 Ways Your Toxic Parent has Prepared You for a Toxic Partner
I see the enabling person as one who will use every trick in the book to let the toxic person get their own way.