Escaping an abusive situation is difficult, if not full on dangerous. Preparing your escape will make you more likely to get out and stay out. Here is some advice to consider while getting ready.
One way I like to reflect on my healing journey is to look back over my own writing. It gives me glimpses of how far I’ve come.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
For your convenience and reading pleasure: a round-up of all the articles that SwanWaters has shared this week. Happy Sunday! July 9 – July 15 Patrick Stewart: The Legacy of Domestic Violence—I’m a huge fan of Patrick Stewart. Not just because he plays one of my favourite characters ever in Star Trek: The Next Generation. […]
The idea that abuse does not happen behind white picket fences or always leaves bruises is just something we tell ourselves. It makes it easier to process. It means we can think of an abuser as a monster, instead of a neighbor.
Interacting with toxic people is a little like playing Emotional Russian Roulette. By that I mean that you never know which version of the person will be on the other side of the door.
Toxic people both demean and overemphasize health and self-care. While being criticized for not healing and for trying to heal, I’d be told I’d die a horrible, slow, young death.
Anger is a very powerful emotion. One which society tends to feel is bad and self-indulgent. Yet it has the potential to benefit our relationships.
Parentification and infantalization are strategies to make the victim feel both responsible