When abusers say, ‘You reap what you sow’ it means ‘you are the real cause of the abuse’. But is there truth to this old adage that abusers fail to see?
How do you take steps as either a parent or adult survivor to break the abuse cycle and shape a happier, healthier life? Here are three important steps.
Interacting with toxic people is a little like playing Emotional Russian Roulette. By that I mean that you never know which version of the person will be on the other side of the door.
Toxic people both demean and overemphasize health and self-care. While being criticized for not healing and for trying to heal, I’d be told I’d die a horrible, slow, young death.
Recently a dear friend and fellow-survivor lost her toxic mother and it got us to talking about grief. I sometimes wonder how I will respond when I find out.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
Awareness of the influence of early learning on our adult life is crucial if we want to improve our situation, and intention is the first step.
Toxic people and abusers are experts on jealousy. They cannot bear the thought of anyone having something they don’t have, or experiencing something they are not experiencing.
Just like their present, a toxic person has a drama-fueled past. Although I know this about my mother, I have no idea at the actual history.
Parentification and infantalization are strategies to make the victim feel both responsible