The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Love bombing is a manipulation tactic used by abusers—of all kinds—to convince the people they want to use that they are worthy of trust; using it as a bargaining chip to fall back on if the target starts realizing that they’re being mistreated.
When abusers say, ‘You reap what you sow’ it means ‘you are the real cause of the abuse’. But is there truth to this old adage that abusers fail to see?
Wish you could make your child to see their abusive spouse, your siblings to see your toxic parents? No matter the context, if they’re not ready they won’t see the abuse. Here are some ways in which you can support someone you love.
Recently a dear friend and fellow-survivor lost her toxic mother and it got us to talking about grief. I sometimes wonder how I will respond when I find out.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
Let me say this about that turn of phrase ‘the right to see their grandchild’. I think that, when they chose to be abusive to you, they forfeited any rights to your children.
SwanWaters finds its beginnings with a group of women who were all daughters of narcissistic mothers. Sharing our stories helped us recover and heal.
Realizing the true extend of the toxic family, and understanding that what happened was in fact abuse is a long and difficult journey. It is only the first step on our road to recovery, but it really is the most important one. That first step toward a better, more healthy life.
The dynamic of a toxic family is one of loneliness as the emotional abuser needs to isolate their victims.