While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
There are people who will aim others at their chosen target. This gang mentality is a way to rationalize the abuse since it isn’t being delivered directly.
So what is a Flying Monkey? I always think of them as a toxic person’s remote controls. They are the people that enable, perpetuate and justify the abuse.
In a family where one or both of the parents function in a toxic pattern, the different family members often adopt different roles in a toxic family.