It took many years for me to understand that guilt and shame are two entirely different things with vastly different impacts.
It not always easy to spend time with relatives… Michael Ballard shares 3 hack to deal with the holidays (but they work on other days too!)
We all know the power of habit, particularly the strength of the “tapes” that run in our heads even when the abuser is gone, they can cause holiday stress
The demands and expectations my abuser had surrounding the holidays were stressful. My life’s much happier and more peaceful since shaking off those demands
In this podcast about my no contact anniversary, I talk about more complicated emotions like anger and guilt, and how sometimes we feel tired of recovery.
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”
Does it sound weird that I am now finding pride in my history of abuse? Why though? Why would I not be?
I truly don’t remember a time in my life when I did not feel shame. We’re not talking about the same thing as guilt.
I read a meme today: The Villain Is So Good at Playing the Victim. That is so true for my parents, my mother especially.
When choosing to establish boundaries toward our toxic parents, many survivors experience what can be described as a pond of guilt.