The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
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I saw the new Wonder Woman movie. I sat in the theatre with my family and cried at the end. I quietly pondered the words, “Only love can save the world.”
Consider you are not just the student when it comes to your healing, but the teacher too. Are you a kind teacher, or do you have an inner Miss Trunchbull?
I often talk about healing from trauma in terms of learning, because I think that is really what this boils down to. We learn to better understand our own story and how it influenced and influences us. We learn to recognize our triggers. We learn to respond to those triggers in better ways, We learn how to have a healthier relationship with the people we love, and most of all we learn how to have a better relationship with ourselves. We learn self-care and boundaries, and the list goes on. Yeah, basically you are enrolled in ‘Me 101’.
Self-care is the most critical piece of your healing because it is how you reclaim your soul, learn to dance with it, then send it out into the world to live joyfully.
When abusers say, ‘You reap what you sow’ it means ‘you are the real cause of the abuse’. But is there truth to this old adage that abusers fail to see?
In the aftermath of abuse, we often have to deal with a myriad of PTSD triggers. Daily life was abuse, now daily life is a reminder of that abuse. By that I mean that sometimes the most normal activities and events can trigger memories and emotional flashbacks. That means that the most mundane tasks can become very difficult to manage.
Healing after abuse is like building a new self from the ground up. Now that you are free, who will you be? Learning new life skills is part of the journey.
People can learn resiliency skills to use when facing challenging times, and increase the quality of the experience and change the quality of the outcome.