It not always easy to spend time with relatives… Michael Ballard shares 3 hack to deal with the holidays (but they work on other days too!)
We all know the power of habit, particularly the strength of the “tapes” that run in our heads even when the abuser is gone, they can cause holiday stress
The demands and expectations my abuser had surrounding the holidays were stressful. My life’s much happier and more peaceful since shaking off those demands
Once I got myself and my girls away from him, I realized we would have to create new traditions. I didn’t want to keep up the same things out of habit when most of those things sucked the joy right out of my holidays.
Christmas and holidays in general can bring out stress in the most peaceful people. There are gifts to buy in overcrowded shops. There is an elaborate meal to cook for family and friends. There is making the house look festive. The list goes on and on. Add a toxic family dynamic to the mix and the stress can be overwhelming.
I am beginning to realize that there is a bunch of significant dates coming up. The last few weeks of the year make for a bit of an emotional challenge.
For years I’d cry at Christmas and couldn’t understand why. Now I know. It was the grief of dealing with the reality that the whole thing was just staged
I had a lovely holiday, but I realize my parents still mess with my head a little at this time of year (It has been over two years since I last spoke to them). There is more than just a meteorological chill in the air. Random events seem to trigger paranoia. Are they trying to […]
I remember only too clearly that feeling of anticipation and dread whenever I would have a family affair to attend. That worry that your life is about to be criticized, belittled and joked about. Sitting around a table or in a circle around the living room… The pressure to be a nice happy family was […]