No Contact is the act of taking away the abuser’s ability to contact you. Learn more about what No Contact is, how it work and what to expect from it.
“I am going to come out and say this: my parents are not nice people! They are excellent actors, and within their community they are respected and even admired. Behind closed doors they scheme and lie.” It has taken M years to find a way to deal with her parents.
There is a fine balance between being prepared for legitimate threats, and just being anxious and obsessive.
When you leave the abusive situation, saying No remains as difficult as ever. Here are some strategies to say no
When you find yourself in an emotionally abusive situation that you cannot, or are not ready to leave it is important that you start putting up some boundaries. These will protect you from the abuse, and can help you get started on your healing journey.
Whether by denial, lying or being covertly abusive - phrasing what they say very carefully to intentionally hurt you - an abuser will use gaslighting as just one weapon in an arsenal of many. The tactic is used to alienate and isolate you from others, most especially your loved ones or co-workers.
The abuser makes the victim feel responsible for their well-being, and even have them take responsibility for the abuse itself.
Emotional abuse may be an elusive concept to many, for people who have been on the receiving end it is only too tangible. The effects of emotional or narcissistic abuse are many, and healing from these can be challenging.
“Over the last years I realise more and more that the constant feedback of me being lazy, undisciplined, self-centred and fat (as the main themes) prevented me from being a confident person, and for a long time stopped me from being a successfully independent adult.”
Emotional Storms keep survivors of abuse off balance in the all areas of their life. Moving forward is difficult, if not impossible, when you are off balance.